Malam
pertama bagi para pengantin selalu menjadi momen yang dinanti,
sekaligus mendebarkan. Dinanti karena untuk kali pertama mereka dapat
merasakan kenikmatan duniawi bersama pasangan. Mendebarkan, karena
dilanda rasa khawatir mengenai aktivitas yang akan dilakukan saat di
ranjang.
Membangun kebersamaan
Konseling dengan pasangan menjadi cara terbaik untuk membunuh mitos seks. "Ada perbedaan besar antara seksualitas pria dan wanita," kata Minnu Bhonsle, konsultan psiko terapis dan konselor relationship.
Karenanya, harapan masing-masing tentang seksualitas akan berbeda satu sama lain. Pria akan lebih memfokuskan diri pada orientasi tubuh, sementara wanita berfokus pada orientasi emosional.
Untuk menjembatani keduanya, maka diperlukan bangunan sikap terhadap hubungan seksual. Anda bisa melakukan ini pada diri sendiri dengan berbicara seputar hal tersebut. Caranya, buatlah kuis pilihan ganda untuk pasangan tentang hal-hal yang Anda suka. Cara ini efektif untuk mengetahui keinginan masing-masing sehingga akhirnya kebersamaan pun terjalin.
Ciptakan kesenangan
Mengingat agenda bercinta adalah agenda yang terbaik, maka tidak perlu ada sikap agresif dalam mewujudkannya. Bila ingin menciptakan aktivitas yang menyenangkan, bawalah diri ke kamar tidur dan jadilah seorang sekretaris seksi untuk si dia. Caranya dengan memakai celana pria. Peran ini sangat baik untuk menciptakan kesenangan dan membangun mood sebelum agenda bercinta dimulai.
Jangan berguru pada film porno
Film porno memang dapat memberi masukan untuk aktivitas ranjang. Namun pendidikan ekstensif dari film porno biasanya justru menciptakan kekecewaan. Setelah menonton film porno, Anda cenderung memiliki imajinasi tinggi terkait agenda berhubungan seks yang ingin dicoba. Saat tak bisa terwujud, justru hanya akan menghadirkan kekecewaan.
Tidak mengandalkan minuman beralkohol
Jangan biarkan antusiasme Anda membawa gairah pada keinginan untuk menegak minuman beralkohol dan berpikir menggunakan pelumas tambahan untuk menciptakan kenikmatan.
"Gagasan ini mungkin sebuah gagasan romantis dengan bersantai bersama segelas anggur," kata Bhonsle.
Tetapi studi menunjukkan anggur justru membuat sulit seseorang untuk mendapatkan ereksi agar bertahan lebih lama, demikian juga dengan pelumas. Sebaiknya Anda tidak mengandalkan penunjang aktivitas seks itu.
"Jika seorang wanita benar-benar terangsang, dia secara alami akan menciptakan lubrikan dengan sendirinya sehingga ketika penetrasi terjadi tidak akan terasa sakit," imbuh Bhonsle.
Pelajari gerakan
Mulailah memberikan pijatan dan gerakan dari bagian atas tubuhnya dan berlanjut ke bagian sensitif lainnya. Perhatikan bagian yang membuatnya mengerang lebih keras. Anda dapat memberikan perhatian intensif di bagian itu. Kemudian, pandulah pasangan agar dia mengetahui apa yang Anda sukai.
Seks itu menyenangkan
Tanamkan selalu perasaan ini agar membuat sesi bercinta berjalan nikmat. Jangan bersikap pasif ketika agenda tersebut berlangsung. Sebaliknya, bersikaplah pro-aktif dan komunikatif sehingga agenda seks dapat memberikan kepuasan bersama.
Untuk menambah referensi, bacalah literatur seperti novel erotis, atau menciptakan kebersamaan dengan mandi bersama untuk membangun mood bercinta.
Berikut ini tips untuk Anda yang akan menjalani malam pertama agar momen tersebut bisa dilalui dengan nyaman dan menyenangkan.
1. Ciptakan suasana yang nyaman. Seperti dikutip dari Newlyweds, buat suasana kamar yang akan digunakan untuk menghabiskan malam pertama, menjadi romantis. Suasana romantis ini berguna agar Anda dan pasangan mood untuk bercinta. Suasana tersebut juga bisa membuat rileks.
Untuk menciptakan suasana romantis, Anda bisa menambahkan mawar di sekitar tempat tidur. Usahakan agar lampu tidak menyala terlalu terang.
2. Pakai busana yang membuat Anda merasa seksi. Memang tidak ada salahnya memakai daster saat tidur. Tapi untuk malam pertama, tentu akan jadi lebih menyenangkan apabila Anda mengenakan lingerie atau busana lain yang membuat Anda merasa seksi.
Perasaan seksi ini penting agar Anda percaya diri dan si dia pun mendapatkan moodnya untuk bercinta. Kenapa perlu percaya diri? Salah satu kunci untuk mendapatkan orgasme adalah kepercayaan diri.
3. Atasi stres. Merasa stres saat akan menghadapi malam pertama adalah hal yang wajar. Stres ini bisa membuat Miss V Anda kering sehingga saat pasangan melakukan penetrasi, Anda bisa merasakan sakit atau tidak nyaman. Selain stres, masalah hormonal yang biasanya datang menjelan Anda datang bulan juga bisa menyebabkan Miss V kering.
Solusinya? Tidak ada salahnya memakai pelumas di malam pertama Anda dan pasangan bercinta. Sebelum memakainya, Anda sebaiknya sudah mencari informasi sebanyak mungkin tentang pelumas dan merek yang Anda pilih itu.
Jika pelumas tak mau Anda jadikan pilihan, solusi lainnya adalah dengan melakukan foreplay selama yang Anda butuhkan. Pada wanita, agar Miss V memiliki cukup banyak cairan, mereka harus merasa benar-benar bergairah. Berpelukan, berciuman dan saling menyentuh bisa jadi kegiatan foreplay yang dapat memancing gairah Anda. Foreplay juga dapat membuat pasangan menjadi lebih dekat dan intim.
Bercinta dengan posisi yang benar juga bisa mencegah Anda merasakan sakit di malam pertama. Cobalah posisi woman on top. Dengan posisi tersebut, Anda bisa mengontrol kedalaman penetrasi pasangan. Anda pun bisa mengontrol dan mengatur bagaimana ritme bercinta tersebut.
4. Kalau Anda termasuk tipe orang yang suka melihat segala sesuatunya terlihat bersih, Anda sebaiknya menyiapkan handuk sebelum bercinta. Handuk ini bisa jadi alas untuk Anda agar darah yang kemungkinan besar keluar dari Mrs V saat pasangan melakukan penetrasi pertama kalinya, tidak membuat seprai kotor.
Sekadar informasi, darah yang keluar di malam pertama ini kemungkinan akan berlanjut sampai beberapa hari ke depan atau ketika Anda bercinta untuk kedua dan ketiga kalinya. Anda tak perlu khawatir, darah yang keluar itu memang normal.
5. Komunikasi. Jangan takut untuk mengkomunikasikan perasaan Anda pada pasangan. Katakan apa yang menjadi ketakutan dan keinginan Anda agar momen malam pertama itu dapat dilalui dengan menyenangkan. Merasa nyaman dengan pasangan dan diri sendiri adalah kunci untuk mencapai orgasme saat bercinta. ENGLISH
The first night for the bride and groom has always been a highly anticipated moment , at once thrilling . Anticipated due to the first time they can feel worldly pleasures with friends . Thrilling , because it was hit by worries about the activities that will be performed when in bed .fuckThis condition is normal existence . Many couples worry that ravaged make sexual activity is not running optimally . Before attacked the syndrome , anxiety prevented with measures being reviewed by the Times of India follows .
build unity
Counseling with couples be the best way to kill the myth of sex . " There is a big difference between male and female sexuality , " said Minnu Bhonsle , consultant psycho therapist and relationship counselor .
Therefore , the expectations of each of sexuality will be different from each other . Men will be more focus on the orientation of the body , while women focus on emotional orientation .
To bridge the two , it would require building attitudes towards sexual intercourse . You can do this yourself by talking about it. The trick , make a multiple choice quiz for a couple of things that you like . The effective way to find out the wishes of each so that togetherness was finally established.
Create your pleasure
Given the agenda is the agenda that best lovemaking , then there should be no aggressive attitude to make it happen . If you want to create a fun activity , take yourself to the bedroom and be a sexy secretary for the him . How to wear men's pants . This role is very good to create pleasure and build up the mood before having sex agenda begins .
Do not sit at a porn movie
Porn movie was to provide input to the bed activity . However, extensive education of porn usually just creates disappointment . After watching porn , you tend to have a high imagination sex -related agendas that want to try. Currently can not be realized , it will only bring disappointment .
Do not count on alcoholic beverages
Do not let your enthusiasm to bring passion to the desire to establish the use of alcoholic beverages and thought the extra lubricant to create enjoyment .
" This idea may be a romantic notion to relax with a glass of wine , " said Bhonsle .
But studies show wine would make it difficult for someone to get an erection that last longer , as well as lubricants . You should not rely supporting the sexual activity .
" If a woman really turned on , she naturally creates a lubricant by itself so that when penetration occurs is not going to hurt , " said Bhonsle .
Learn movement
Begin giving massage and movement of the upper body and continue to other sensitive parts . Note the part that made him moan louder . You can give intensive attention in that section . Then , Guide the couple that he knows what you like .
Sex is fun
Instill always this feeling that makes sex session running favors . Do not be passive when the agenda underway . Instead , be pro - active and communicative so that the agenda can provide satisfaction with sex .
To add the reference , read erotic literature such as novels , or create togetherness with shared bath to build the mood .
Here are tips for you that will undergo the first night so that the moment can be passed with a comfortable and pleasant .
1 . Make it convenient . As quoted from Newlyweds , create the atmosphere of the room that will be used to spend the first night , be romantic . The romantic atmosphere is useful for you and your partner in the mood for sex . The atmosphere can also be relaxing .
To create a romantic atmosphere , you can add around a bed of roses . Try to keep the lamp is not lit too bright .
2 . Wear clothes that make you feel sexy . It does not hurt to wear a negligee while sleeping . But for the first night , it will be more fun when you are wearing lingerie or other clothing that makes you feel sexy .
Feeling sexy is important that you are confident and he's also got the mood to make love . Why need to believe in yourself ? One of the keys to getting an orgasm is confidence .
3 . Overcome stress . Feeling stressed when going face first night is normal . Stress can make your vagina dry so that when couples penetration , you may feel pain or discomfort . In addition to stress , hormonal problems that usually come menjelan coming months you can also cause a dry vagina .
The solution ? There is no harm in wearing a lubricant on the first night you and your partner make love . Before wear them , you should 've been looking for as much information as possible about lubricants and brand you choose it .
If you do not want to make the lubricant of choice, the other solution is to do foreplay as long as you need. In women , the vagina in order to have enough fluids , they must feel really passionate . Hugging , kissing and touching each other can be foreplay activities that can provoke your passion . Foreplay can also make couples become closer and intimate .
Making love to the correct position can also prevent you from feeling pain on the first night . Try woman on top position . With this position , you can control the depth of penetration couples . You can control and regulate how the fuck rhythm .
4 . If you're the type who likes to see things look clean , you should prepare a towel before sex . These towels can be the base for your blood that are likely to come out of the vagina when penetrating partner the first time , do not make dirty sheets .
For your information , the blood that comes out on the first night is likely to continue until the next few days or when you make love to a second and third time . You do not need to worry , it was blood that came out normal .
5 . Communication . Do not be afraid to communicate your feelings to your partner. Tell me what the fears and desires that moment the first night can be passed to fun . Feel comfortable with your partner and yourself is a key to achieve orgasm during sex .
build unity
Counseling with couples be the best way to kill the myth of sex . " There is a big difference between male and female sexuality , " said Minnu Bhonsle , consultant psycho therapist and relationship counselor .
Therefore , the expectations of each of sexuality will be different from each other . Men will be more focus on the orientation of the body , while women focus on emotional orientation .
To bridge the two , it would require building attitudes towards sexual intercourse . You can do this yourself by talking about it. The trick , make a multiple choice quiz for a couple of things that you like . The effective way to find out the wishes of each so that togetherness was finally established.
Create your pleasure
Given the agenda is the agenda that best lovemaking , then there should be no aggressive attitude to make it happen . If you want to create a fun activity , take yourself to the bedroom and be a sexy secretary for the him . How to wear men's pants . This role is very good to create pleasure and build up the mood before having sex agenda begins .
Do not sit at a porn movie
Porn movie was to provide input to the bed activity . However, extensive education of porn usually just creates disappointment . After watching porn , you tend to have a high imagination sex -related agendas that want to try. Currently can not be realized , it will only bring disappointment .
Do not count on alcoholic beverages
Do not let your enthusiasm to bring passion to the desire to establish the use of alcoholic beverages and thought the extra lubricant to create enjoyment .
" This idea may be a romantic notion to relax with a glass of wine , " said Bhonsle .
But studies show wine would make it difficult for someone to get an erection that last longer , as well as lubricants . You should not rely supporting the sexual activity .
" If a woman really turned on , she naturally creates a lubricant by itself so that when penetration occurs is not going to hurt , " said Bhonsle .
Learn movement
Begin giving massage and movement of the upper body and continue to other sensitive parts . Note the part that made him moan louder . You can give intensive attention in that section . Then , Guide the couple that he knows what you like .
Sex is fun
Instill always this feeling that makes sex session running favors . Do not be passive when the agenda underway . Instead , be pro - active and communicative so that the agenda can provide satisfaction with sex .
To add the reference , read erotic literature such as novels , or create togetherness with shared bath to build the mood .
Here are tips for you that will undergo the first night so that the moment can be passed with a comfortable and pleasant .
1 . Make it convenient . As quoted from Newlyweds , create the atmosphere of the room that will be used to spend the first night , be romantic . The romantic atmosphere is useful for you and your partner in the mood for sex . The atmosphere can also be relaxing .
To create a romantic atmosphere , you can add around a bed of roses . Try to keep the lamp is not lit too bright .
2 . Wear clothes that make you feel sexy . It does not hurt to wear a negligee while sleeping . But for the first night , it will be more fun when you are wearing lingerie or other clothing that makes you feel sexy .
Feeling sexy is important that you are confident and he's also got the mood to make love . Why need to believe in yourself ? One of the keys to getting an orgasm is confidence .
3 . Overcome stress . Feeling stressed when going face first night is normal . Stress can make your vagina dry so that when couples penetration , you may feel pain or discomfort . In addition to stress , hormonal problems that usually come menjelan coming months you can also cause a dry vagina .
The solution ? There is no harm in wearing a lubricant on the first night you and your partner make love . Before wear them , you should 've been looking for as much information as possible about lubricants and brand you choose it .
If you do not want to make the lubricant of choice, the other solution is to do foreplay as long as you need. In women , the vagina in order to have enough fluids , they must feel really passionate . Hugging , kissing and touching each other can be foreplay activities that can provoke your passion . Foreplay can also make couples become closer and intimate .
Making love to the correct position can also prevent you from feeling pain on the first night . Try woman on top position . With this position , you can control the depth of penetration couples . You can control and regulate how the fuck rhythm .
4 . If you're the type who likes to see things look clean , you should prepare a towel before sex . These towels can be the base for your blood that are likely to come out of the vagina when penetrating partner the first time , do not make dirty sheets .
For your information , the blood that comes out on the first night is likely to continue until the next few days or when you make love to a second and third time . You do not need to worry , it was blood that came out normal .
5 . Communication . Do not be afraid to communicate your feelings to your partner. Tell me what the fears and desires that moment the first night can be passed to fun . Feel comfortable with your partner and yourself is a key to achieve orgasm during sex .
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