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sebuah survei, kebanyakan pria menghindari berkencan dengan rekan
wanita di kantornya karena takut akan segala akibat yang mungkin
terjadi. Tapi, mereka tahu kekurangan Anda, jadwal rutin Anda, dan
membuat makan siang Anda jadi lebih menyenangkan. Jadi berkencanlah.
Tapi pastikan Anda:Tidak berubah. Berbagi lift setelah sesi panas di kamar tidur? Canggung –dan berpotensi merusak hubungan Anda dengannya. Menurut survei Human Nature tahun 2008, wanita lebih mungkin merasa menyesal daripada pria, terutama jika mereka takut bahwa kencan pertamanya juga sekaligus akan menjadi yang terakhir. Aturannya “Pancing dengan lelucon Anda yang sama sebelum Anda mengencaninya,” ujar Anna David, ahli relationship pada G4’s Attack of the Show! Anda akan selalu memiliki hubungan yang bagus. Jadi, tunjukkkan padanya bahwa hal itu tidak akan berubah.
Menangkal gosip. Menurut survei Men’s Health Amerika baru-baru ini, takut pada gosip menghalangi peluang mendapat pasangan. Masih berdasarkan survei, sebanyak 66% responden menyatakan sekali mereka terlibat, mereka tidak takut lagi tentang hal yang sifatnya rahasia. Aturannya Waktu adalah kuncinya. “Tunjukkan pada rekan-rekan Anda dengan sekadar minum bersama-sama sepulang kerja, dengan saling bertukar informasi dan tanpa perlu berpura-pura,” kata Stephanie Losee, pengarang Office Mate, bersama Helaine Olen. “Jika mereka melontarkan pertanyaan, jawab secara sederhana. Tak perlu detil. Bagaimanapun, rekan kerja tidak ingin tahu banyak.”
Lupakan pekerjaan. “Orang yang pernah terluka menjadikan kesalahannya untuk mendapatkan pasangan yang romantis,” ujar Olen. Mengobrol banyak dengannya akan membuatnya lebih mengenal Anda, dan waktu akan terasa berjalan lebih cepat. Aturannya “Beri diri Anda waktu 10 menit untuk berbincang-bincang dan terus dekati dirinya.” kata Leil Lowndes, pengarang How to Talk to Anyone. Agar makin dekat, Anda perlu berbagi pengalaman di luar kamar tidur. Lakukan sesuatu yang bisa jadi bahan obrolan, seperti pergi nonton atau jalan-jalan.
Biarkan si Dia mempesona Anda. Memang sulit menyaksikan wanita yang pernah punya hubungan intim dengan Anda bergenit-ria dengan pria lain –sekalipun, pada banyak kasus, itu hanya sekadar gurauan ringan di kantor. Aturannya Pada penelitian yang diterbitkan Journal of Economic Psychology tahun 2008, ditemukan bahwa banyak wanita cantik mendapat gaji 7-12 % lebih besar daripada rekan mereka. Jika si Dia mampu membuat rekannya terlihat bekerja untuknya, siapa Anda jika berniat menghentikannya? Tapi buatlah agar si Dia lebih percaya tentang perasaan Anda padanya, terang Anna David. Jika dia tahu di mana posisinya bersama Anda, si Dia akan memperlakukan orang-orang lain dengan berbeda.
Sembuhkan perlahan. Hanya sedikit romantisme di kantor yang bisa bertahan lama, jadi jangan terkejut jika hubungan Anda kandas. Jika Anda sampai terlihat terluka karena hal itu, rekan Anda bisa (dan sejujurnya, akan) merebut mantan Anda. Aturannya ”Simpan perdebatan sampai setelah jam 5 sore, dan lakukan jauh dari kantor. Dan jangan pernah memukul properti kantor,” sindir Emma Taylor pengarang Buku Bye: The Ultimate Guide to Dumping and Getting Dumped.
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Making love in the office-According
to a survey , most men avoid going out with female colleagues at the
office for fear of any consequences that may occur . But , they know your shortcomings , your regular schedule , and make your lunch more fun . So berkencanlah . But make sure you :Not changed . Share elevator after a hot session in the bedroom ? Awkward - and potentially ruin your relationship with him . Human
Nature According to a survey in 2008 , women are more likely to feel
regret than men, especially if they fear that the first date also will
be the last . The
rule " Fishing with your same joke before you date her , " said Anna
David , a relationship expert on G4 's Attack of the Show ! You will always have a good relationship . So , show her that it's not going to change .Ward off gossip . According to Men's Health America survey recently , fear of gossip got a couple blocking opportunities . Still based on the survey , 66 % of respondents said once they get involved , they are not afraid of things that are secret . The rule is the key time . "
Show your peers you with just a drink together after work , to exchange
information and without the need to pretend , " says Stephanie Losee ,
author of Office Mate , with Helaine Olen . " If they ask questions , answer is simple . Needless to detail . However , co-workers do not want to know much . "Forget the job . " People who never make mistakes hurt to get a romantic partner , " said Olen . Chatted a lot more familiar with it will make you , and the time will run noticeably faster . The
rule " Give yourself 10 minutes to talk and continued to approach him .
" Says Leil Lowndes , author of How to Talk to Anyone . To be more close , you need to share experiences outside the bedroom . Do something that could be to talk about , like going to the movies or a walk .Tell your boss . No
need to disclose your relationship from heart to heart in the corner
office , but the boss will usually listen to the news quickly . The
rule is " Make a meeting with the boss as a test before you meet your
parents , " says Daniel Pink , author of The Adventures of Johnny Bunko :
The Last Career Guide You'll Ever Need . " If you introduce him to your parents man regarded as an important thing , do the same on your boss . " Losee suggested . Tell me plainly that you want exposure to it , and the pressure on the job will not affect it . " Do not go to the boss room with friends , " Losee added , " It was not good . "Let the He dazzle you . It's
hard to watch a woman who once had an intimate relationship with you
bergenit - ria with another man - even though , in many cases , it's
just a mild joke at the office . The
rule In a study published in the Journal of Economic Psychology in 2008
, found that many beautiful women earn 7-12 % larger than their
counterparts . If she is able to make her look work for him , who you are if you intend to stop ? But in order to make the more he believed her about your feelings , bright Anna David . If he knows where he stands with you , the He would treat other people differently.Heal slowly . Only a few in the office romance that could last a long time , so do not be surprised if your relationship foundered . If you get hurt because of it's looks , someone you can ( and frankly , will ) seize your ex . The rule " Save debate until after 5 pm , and do away from the office . And
do not ever hit the office property , " quipped author Emma Taylor Bye
Book : The Ultimate Guide to Dumping and Getting Dumped .
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